He called me his early Christmas gift.
When we married Dec 18, 1999, I thought I was marrying the love of my life. Jim would shower me with attention, tell me I was beautiful and his angel that had saved him from ending his life when his Mom died a month before we met. It was a very emotional time in our lives, so the outbursts of vile words I dismissed as a result of all the turmoil in our lives. Besides having just lost his Mother, his uncle & aunt were very cold towards us. His uncle insisted on a pre-nup (he was going to have an inheritance of an estimated $200,000 after all was said and done) and they thought I only wanted his money. It didn't help that my best friend at the time convinced Jim that was true as well. I signed happily but it did put a strain on Jim's relationship with them.
Jim was also facing jail time. He had damaged a vehicle of his ex-fiance's new boyfriend and made threatening calls to him. Hindsite is everything aint it? But at the time I took this as a bad break up, not a sign of a violent man. (yeah, I am shaking my head as I write this). Jim speant the first 2 months lying about having damaged the truck or threatened anyone. Jim was hurting deeply for the loss of his Mother and the "dismissive" way his family treated him. I decided I would rescue him from all the saddness in his life. Jim told me often that I reminded him of his Mother and that is why he fell in love with me.
That is also the reason he fell out of love with me.
When we married Dec 18, 1999, I thought I was marrying the love of my life. Jim would shower me with attention, tell me I was beautiful and his angel that had saved him from ending his life when his Mom died a month before we met. It was a very emotional time in our lives, so the outbursts of vile words I dismissed as a result of all the turmoil in our lives. Besides having just lost his Mother, his uncle & aunt were very cold towards us. His uncle insisted on a pre-nup (he was going to have an inheritance of an estimated $200,000 after all was said and done) and they thought I only wanted his money. It didn't help that my best friend at the time convinced Jim that was true as well. I signed happily but it did put a strain on Jim's relationship with them.
Jim was also facing jail time. He had damaged a vehicle of his ex-fiance's new boyfriend and made threatening calls to him. Hindsite is everything aint it? But at the time I took this as a bad break up, not a sign of a violent man. (yeah, I am shaking my head as I write this). Jim speant the first 2 months lying about having damaged the truck or threatened anyone. Jim was hurting deeply for the loss of his Mother and the "dismissive" way his family treated him. I decided I would rescue him from all the saddness in his life. Jim told me often that I reminded him of his Mother and that is why he fell in love with me.
That is also the reason he fell out of love with me.
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