Shattered

When you've been on a rollar coaster like this for 5 years nothing should shock you, right?

Wrong.

Tension was high of course with Mom living with us. Jim's yelling and throwing things, refusing to work, calling me names escalated. I had to be the go between Mom and Jim. Everyone resented me for everything I said. My house was filled with drama and I was exhausted from trying to keep it all together. I felt the weight of the world on my shoulders. We didn't have internet for awhile and had to go to the library to check email. That's when my world stopped spinning.

Jim didn't want to get out of the car and asked me to check his email. I did and accidently clicked on "sent" folder. In there I fond an email that was to a woman he obviously had a relationship with. It was not the usual nasty stuff.

He told her he loved her and they were meant to be together. I must have read that email 50x in a few minutes time.

I came out to the car and told him I knew. He said he had never mailed it (but it was in his sent folder) and that he was mad at me when he typed it so I had no reason to get mad. That's it. No more discussion. Jim said he was not going to contintue to discuss something he hadn't even mailed. I pointed out that it was in his sent folder. He said it don't matter anyway, I was mad. I didn't mean it. End of discussion.

I've never felt such pain. Nothing I could discribe to you would come close.

Soon after, Mom found a place nearby. Some of the tension was gone.

I heard rumors that Jim had cheated on me, which he denied. I didn't even care anymore. He had told someone he loved them. My heart was shattered beyond repair it seemed.

Then Jim said things would be better. He was "over" everything. It was a generic statement so I didn't have much faith in it. What happened was he got much better at hiding things from me. On the surface he would lower his voice when he got mad, not throw things as often, offer to have me check his email to show he wasn't cheating. He said he was "going on his own journey with God" and that would return to church soon, to give him time. On the surface things appeared fine.

but I knew they weren't.